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Missed Abortion and Infertility
by Myah's Mom, Sep 10, 2004 12:00AM
Hi everyone,
I started to MC in early July, and given the choice to let it progress naturally, I did. Didn't really start to bleed heavy until about a month later, which lasted about 2 weeks. An US Aug 14 showed a 6w1d sac (exactly the date at which I started to MC). My levels have been dropping, but still not at 0. After this US, the Dr assured me it was still ok to let things take their course naturally. I had an US today, and expected to see a nice empty uterus. Nope. Still the 6w sac. I am getting a little disturbed by this now, as we would like to move on and try again. I have a one year old, and desperately want our children close in age. However, now I am worried about just having more children! Are there risks to having a "missed abortion" (God I hate that term) go on this long? If there is so much risk, why would my Dr, whom I trust wholeheartedly assure me that it will progress on its own? Should I question her judgement?
I guess a little part of me hoped to see a new preg developing on that US today...It was the most heartbreaking thing, seeing all those pregnant women today going for their exciting 20 wk US. How I wanted to be in their shoes.
I know I'm fortunate to have one healthy child, and to those of you who have suffered multiple MC or other fertility problems, I commend you for your strength and my prayers are with you. I have a new appreciation for the miracle of pregnancy, let me tell you.
Why is this baby hanging on to me 2 months later? It's absolutely heartbreaking.... Would love some advice/words of wisdom/hope.
Sad in Newfoundland,
MM
I started to MC in early July, and given the choice to let it progress naturally, I did. Didn't really start to bleed heavy until about a month later, which lasted about 2 weeks. An US Aug 14 showed a 6w1d sac (exactly the date at which I started to MC). My levels have been dropping, but still not at 0. After this US, the Dr assured me it was still ok to let things take their course naturally. I had an US today, and expected to see a nice empty uterus. Nope. Still the 6w sac. I am getting a little disturbed by this now, as we would like to move on and try again. I have a one year old, and desperately want our children close in age. However, now I am worried about just having more children! Are there risks to having a "missed abortion" (God I hate that term) go on this long? If there is so much risk, why would my Dr, whom I trust wholeheartedly assure me that it will progress on its own? Should I question her judgement?
I guess a little part of me hoped to see a new preg developing on that US today...It was the most heartbreaking thing, seeing all those pregnant women today going for their exciting 20 wk US. How I wanted to be in their shoes.
I know I'm fortunate to have one healthy child, and to those of you who have suffered multiple MC or other fertility problems, I commend you for your strength and my prayers are with you. I have a new appreciation for the miracle of pregnancy, let me tell you.
Why is this baby hanging on to me 2 months later? It's absolutely heartbreaking.... Would love some advice/words of wisdom/hope.
Sad in Newfoundland,
MM
Eventually, your body will absorb the gestational sac. But if you are trying to conceive this may certainly slow you down. A lot of time has passed already.
This is very frustrating for you, and I am sorry it is happening.
Thanks for your advice. There is actually a Dr starting a new practice closer to my home, and I was thinking about seeing her anyway. Now you have given me a good reason to do so.
I appreciate your help and kind thoughts.
http://home.earthlink.net/~misdiagnosed/
Also:
http://bbs.babycenter.com/board/pregnancy/prenatalhealth/1311584/thread/575970?i=0#go
For support on natural miscarriage:
http://www.rubber-ducky.org/carolynsboards/read.php?f=13&i=1097&t=1093
I'm sorry that you are having to go through this time. My prayers are with you. Let us know how it goes.
hope everyone is ok, mmg how r u? cmn? guinea???
I truly appreciate the support, and will keep you posted.
My name is Kim and I am from Newfoundland too. I just had a M/C too. I was 8 weeks & 4 days pregnant.
On Tuesday, September 7, 2004, I had my first ultrasound. The US was scheduled before for I became pregnant, it was to check for infertility, because we had been trying to get pregnant for over a year and I am 37 years old. Anyway, I went just so that I could see my baby and be assured everything was ok. The radiologist said that the fetus was too small for me to be 8 weeks pregnant, that it was measuring at about 6 weeks. He did detect a slight flutter that he thought was the heartbeat, but he was not sure. He suggested that the fetus may not be viable or I may just not be as far along as we think. But I knew my dates were right and can be almost 95% sure of the date of conception. I had not had any bleeding, spotting or cramps or anything that would indicate a MC. They rescheduled me for another US in two weeks.
On Thursday, Sept. 9 I just didn't feel right, there was no bleeding, just slight pink in my urine and only minor back pain when I went to bed last night. At 4:15 Friday morning I woke up to go to the bathroom, when I did was bleeding and had passed what I believe to be the placenta. It was a blood clot about the size of an small tennis ball. I continued to bleed bright red. My husband was sleeping so I just stayed there and cried to myself. I didn't know how to tell him. After a few minutes I had to wake him to tell him what was happening. We lay in bed holding each other and crying for about an hour. I had a doctors appointment later that day but figured I should call the hospital for advice. They told me to come in right away so that they could see what was happening and make sure that I wasn't bleeding too much. I was examined by a couple of doctors and told that I was indeed having a M/C. My sister met us at the hospital, which was very nice to have her there.
The doctor gave me a prescription to help get rid of all the remaining tissue and blood. The medication is called Misoprostol. Most of the bleeding and large clots have gone now, I am still passing some blood like a period. I think that should go away in a couple of days. I will have an US and blood work on Monday to see that eveything is going right. I will then speak to a OBGYN to find out how to proceed from here. My husband and I both want to start trying again as soon as possible.
I am so tired, sad and in shock, but I just can't sleep. I know there was nothing I could do to prevent it and that it is very common, I was told by the doctor that 1 in 5 pregnancies end in M/C. MY husband has been very supportive and keeps reassuring me that he loves me now matter what, and that I am more important to him than anything else in the world and he just wants to make sure I am ok. But I know he is hurting just as much as I am. I am so tired but can't stop thinking long enough to sleep. I have been resting but can't sleep. I can't stop thinking of everything I have lost.
I am so sorry for your loss. I know haw you feel about your loss but you have been going through it for too long. Maybe you should ask your doctor about Misoprostol. I don't know what part of the province you are in but I am in the St. John's area and I went to the Health Science center. They were great and very supportive.
Take Care and please email me to keep me updated, it helps to talk to others who are going through the same thing.
God Bless
Kim in St. John's, NL
I'm also sorry to hear of your loss, and would love to chat by email if you like: ***@****
I think I may have actually had a period today-not sure if that is even possible if still retaining the sac-is it?
Kim I too passed what I felt for certain was the placenta. Hope every day finds you a little better....
Lisa
we don't know the sex, doubt we will find out either as there is a message outside the scan rooms saying please do not ask the sonographer to tell you the sex, it is not their job, we don't mind though, i feel personally for me it's kinda like knowing whats in the christmas paper before you open it, i can understand it second time round etc so you know if you need to buy new clothes etc if the sex is different, but i have been buying neutral colours, apart from the odd dress!!!
we went and bought the buggy the other night, it includes car seat, foot muff & baby bag, total cost £129, don't know what that is in dollars im afraid!
i do look on here most days to see how everyone is doing, but just a quick look as we are having some building work done to our house soon, new conservatory, double glazing, work to front of house etc and we are rushing round getting quotes from people, i'm really excited as my parents come to us for christmas and im hoping it will be done by then (fingers crossed)
I was just looking over these posts and realized I responded pretty quickly. My toddler was crying on me and I didn't realize fully what I was writing. First of all, I'm sorry that you are going through this time. I know how difficult it is.
I was wondering, is there any chance you could have had twins and m/c one of them. I know 2 women who have had that happen. They had miscarriage symptoms, bleeding