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High Risk, Low Risk, or No Risk
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This forum is for questions and support regarding STD issues such as: Chlamydia, Crabs (pubic lice scabies), Gonorrhea, Hepatitis (viral), Herpes, HPV, Molluscum Contagiosum, PID, Rectal Infections, Syphilis, Trichomoniasis, Warts, Yeast Infection.All questions will be answered by H. Hunter Handsfield, M.D. or Edward W Hook, MD.
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High Risk, Low Risk, or No Risk
by SeattleMan, Nov 17, 2005 12:00AM
Dear Doctor:
I am a 33-year old married man with two children, and I am afraid that I have put my wife's sexual health at jeopardy.
As of yesterday, my STD/HIV panels have been all negative.
Yesterday, however, I really screwed-up. I did not tell my wife yet, and I don't know how to approach her to report to her the evils that I may have exposed her to.
Yesterday, I went to a massage parlor ("spa"). We had the following sexual contact:
**She massage my legs and feet (No Risk).
**Then she gave me a handjob. What scares me about this is that the she gave me the handjob WITHOUT A CONDOM.
**After the handjob, I visually inspected the both hand. No cuts, no scrapes, not even a hangnail.
Then I really screwed up, and I have sex with my wife this morning WITHOUT A CONDOM.
In terms of HIV, what do I need to do now? I'm really on the edge of having put my wife at risk. My gut reaction is that there is ZERO (ZILCH, NADA) risk. But an STD hotline said that the ONLY "zero risk" is "zero contact." I don't understand how this handjob can be risky?
Thank you,
Dom
I am a 33-year old married man with two children, and I am afraid that I have put my wife's sexual health at jeopardy.
As of yesterday, my STD/HIV panels have been all negative.
Yesterday, however, I really screwed-up. I did not tell my wife yet, and I don't know how to approach her to report to her the evils that I may have exposed her to.
Yesterday, I went to a massage parlor ("spa"). We had the following sexual contact:
**She massage my legs and feet (No Risk).
**Then she gave me a handjob. What scares me about this is that the she gave me the handjob WITHOUT A CONDOM.
**After the handjob, I visually inspected the both hand. No cuts, no scrapes, not even a hangnail.
Then I really screwed up, and I have sex with my wife this morning WITHOUT A CONDOM.
In terms of HIV, what do I need to do now? I'm really on the edge of having put my wife at risk. My gut reaction is that there is ZERO (ZILCH, NADA) risk. But an STD hotline said that the ONLY "zero risk" is "zero contact." I don't understand how this handjob can be risky?
Thank you,
Dom
Doctor's Answer
by H. Hunter Handsfield, M.D., Nov 17, 2005 12:00AM
, Nov 17, 2005 12:00AM
Don't lose any sleep over that exposure. Zero, zilch, nada pretty well sums it up. You were at no risk.
Good luck-- HHH, MD
Good luck-- HHH, MD
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Handjobs are 100 percent safe.
By the way, if I can offer you my opinion, I don't think you should tell your wife. It was a zero risk encounter and why do you want to jepordise your marriage over this? You regret what you did and I believe that is enough. It will make things worse if you tell her. Also, you didn't actually have sex so it wasn't adultry.
Just my opinion, hope it helps.
Ben
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