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Family coping with changes after stroke
by v_2lkerr, Mar 14, 2007 12:00AM
My 49 year old mother had a massive stroke Aug 2005. Since the stroke she has recovered in being able to use her arm again and her speach returned in a few months after the stroke occurred.
I understand the emotional affects that are happening to her and that depression and mood changes can occur.
At times she is just down right mean- not only to her family but to anyone. I have also discovered that she is now addicted to gambling- something that has started since the stroke (that we are aware of) and it is destroying our family. She is stealing from us, lying about it and when we find out our heart is broken and it is so hard to talk to her about it because she makes us feel bad by saying "...because of the stoke..." and I end up crying and forgiving her.
I love my mom and want to support her and do support her, but we need help and I just don't know what to do anymore.
Any input into this would be so greatly appreciated!
I understand the emotional affects that are happening to her and that depression and mood changes can occur.
At times she is just down right mean- not only to her family but to anyone. I have also discovered that she is now addicted to gambling- something that has started since the stroke (that we are aware of) and it is destroying our family. She is stealing from us, lying about it and when we find out our heart is broken and it is so hard to talk to her about it because she makes us feel bad by saying "...because of the stoke..." and I end up crying and forgiving her.
I love my mom and want to support her and do support her, but we need help and I just don't know what to do anymore.
Any input into this would be so greatly appreciated!
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It's hard work, and maybe your mom is too mule-ish to cooperate, but if you can convince her of what she has to gain and win her cooperation, she might regain hope, come out of her depression, and put her energy into the demanding exercises instead of into gambling (as the previous poster suggested). I've seen some real good recoveries by people who had given up with other methods. The younger the better, & as strokes go your mom is pretty young.
Thank you